The security of a Mother's love

A child thrives in a secure environment. The infant senses the comfort, safety and security his mother provides as she cuddles him. . She softly coos, smiles and physically nourishes her little “angel” as she holds him close to her breast.

From the beginning, a Mother’s love symbolizes absolute devotion; dedication to providing emotional security, safety for her individual offspring.

A Father’s role focuses on physically providing for the family unit. His duty is to provide a home, sustenance; his masculine presence is a promise of safety from harsh forces from the outside world. That he will not be involved in the care of his young children is seldom a point of conflict.

In the last half of the twentieth century, views changed; responsibility in family relationships shifted, robbing each member of the security provided by accepted social standards with expected benefits.

Relationships rotated 360 degrees from the “first comes love, next comes marriage, then comes the baby carriage” scenario, to the modern “sex, hopefully love, we’re pregnant, should we get married ?” soap operas that bring so many families into being in 2011.

Single parent families are the norm. Children spend more time with substitute caregivers than with family.

Home day care providers accept a unique responsibility; each child will be her ward for care during much of his trainable hours.

She accepts the responsibility for endeavoring to instill a feeling of comfort, safety and security as his Nanny, realizing while he is not in her care his parent will be enforcing family values. The wise daycare giver seeks to reinforce the parents’ values.

As a child matures, his caregiver must be alert.

A child reacts to circumstances from home; to the unobservant caregiver this behavior may mark him as stubborn, overly aggressive, sullen, uncooperative.

How unfortunate, this little person may be labeled “bad”. It is now that he needs reassurance, guidance, and love. A firm but gentle hand must guide him.

When a little girl has responded well to potty training, but suddenly reverts to infant behavior or another child begins to cry constantly or begins to demand excessive lap time, a wise Nanny recognizes a need for extra loving attention. She also has a responsibility to help a parent recognize and cope with the problem at home.

A daily report to Mommy of what has happened during the day; what was done to deal with the situation, will often result in a voluntary suggestion from the parent as to what the home situation is, but NEVER will a

caregiver ask or insinuate what she believes to be fact.

The advantage of volunteered information is a better understanding of care for needed by the child while at daycare.

Feeling happy, safe, loved

The family’s home life is not her concern; the care of child when in her care is.

Individual attention for each charge is an advantage of Home Day Care, with legally restricted limit ( in South Carolina) of 6 children.

An affective Home Day Care provider will not see herself as simply a babysitter.

She accepts the responsibility to instill a feeling of comfort, safety and security as her  Nanny, her responsibility to parents will be enforcing  their family values.